What are we celebrating this 4th of July?

Today is a very special day for all Americans and for lovers of liberty around the world.  Independence Day, better known as the 4th of July, is a celebration of the day that The American Colonies began that very frightening and dangerous step of severing ties with our Mother Country, Great Britain.

Its always scary when the kid leaves home and goes out on his or her own but when you write a bill of divorce from the most powerful Empire on Earth, it’s serious business and not to be taken lightly.

The very life of every signer of the Declaration of Independence was immediately forfeit according to British law. This was an act of TREASON against the Crown.  

Can you imagine the intestinal fortitude (guts) it took for these wealthy and privileged men to put life, limb, family and property all on the line for an idea. A revolutionary idea that all men are created equal in the sight of God; that all blood was red, none blue?

Yes, the founders made one glaring exception and that was the Black men and women brought from Africa to work as slaves throughout the Colonies.  A shameful omission seen through today’s eyes, but we must all judge our forefathers and mothers by the mores of their time.

In 1776 Europeans were just beginning to condemn the slave trade and slavery itself.  (Britain would not outlaw slavery and the slave trade in the Empire until 1811) But like all moral leaps, abolition was in its infancy in 1776.

What are we really celebrating on this Tuesday, July 4, 2017?

We are celebrating liberty:  The freedom to speak our minds, even unpleasantly and to defend the rights of others to do the same.  If one person’s liberty is abridged, all liberty is abridged.  Liberty has limits in that one cannot threaten murder or incite riot or rebellion.  New limits on the cyber world are long over due but liberty must be the floor under all such reforms.

We celebrate a nation that is free of aristocracy and the idea that one class is higher born than another.  No one is trapped in their social class in America unless he or she will not do the work needed to climb the social ladder.  Not very long ago your race, religion, gender or national origin could bar you from advancement into the world of affluence and influence.

Today, Americans of all races, cultures, gender and religions sit at the table of power, both economic and political.  Can we do more?  Yes, a society can always do more and we are making great strides in breaking barriers that could not even be discussed in the world of my youth.  This is sometimes a bit jarring to those of us born into the Post-War world but to my generation I say: GET OVER IT.

If you are a lover of liberty, as I am, you cannot cherish your freedom and deny the freedom of others.

The most important meaning of this Independence Day is that on this day of July 4th 1776, Americans lit a torch of freedom which changed the entire world.  Within 20 years, France, Hungary, Britain and even Germany overthrew or liberalized repressive regimes.

The fact that Great Britain, the most powerful Empire on Earth at the time, was soundly defeated in a long and bloody war by farmers, merchants, freed slaves, immigrants, merchant seaman, planters, tailors, cobblers and men of all classes and occupations.  Every one risked his life, his fortune and his family in the cause of liberty.

Can we do less today in 2017. Let’s come together as Americans.  Let’s bury our differences, learn to listen to each other (we just might learn something) let’s make a Declaration of Interdependence, a manifesto of common values of civility if not always agreement, of love, light  liberty, and justice for all.

Let us all pledge to defend, to the death, the freedom and personal liberty that our forefathers risked all to obtain. Especially the liberty of those with which we disagree.   Abridge one person’s liberty, all liberty is at risk.

Let’s make this July 4th 2017, the Day we re-united as Americans.  Make this Interdependence Day, for in truth we are all interdependent, all part of the whole.

Rev. Dore’ Patlian, Sarasota, FL   I Am a Religious Scientist!   Learn more at CSL.org

The Healing of America, Part 2

Last post we diagnosed the cause of this malaise in the American Spirit that has produced this most unpleasant election. Most would agree that this campaign has been a low point in modern  political life.  America is sick at heart and in spirit. Time to call the Doctor!

Working class America feels betrayed and left behind, that is clear.  Whether their feelings are justified does not really matter.  Feelings are feelings and must be addressed when those feelings are coming from 52% of the electorate.

Working class America is feeling like the “stepchild” of the body politic in America and they are very angry.  They feel like attention has been paid to every constituency in America but them and they demand our attention.  With the nomination of Donald Trump they got our attention in full measure.

With a better messenger, the message might have changed things for the better.  Alas, Working Class anger brought us an angry, unfit demagogue and it has cost us dearly as a nation and a people

I am writing this post on November 7th.  Tomorrow we will know if we have chosen the first woman President, complete with a semi-truck load of baggage, or a deeply flawed reality show star and minor celebrity who is reminiscent of the demagogues who took over many European nations in the 1920’s and 30’s.

What has brought us to this Hobson’s Choice and what can we do to ensure that it is never repeated?

How do we knit the nation back together after this most divisive election and create a climate where every one feels that their concerns are addressed and that they are heard?   A few simple changes are needed.  These changes won’t return a high paying union job for every “rust belt” worker who lost his job in the last 20 years.  The one constant in the Universe is change.   The world has changed, America has changed and too many working class Americans are still living in the past.

But the ideas I am proposing will make our government more responsive, stop the ridiculous “beauty contest” of the primaries, shorten a campaign season that never seems to end and once again provide candidates that we can be proud to support.

Presidential Primaries are a very bad way to choose the nominee from each party.  In this Republican primary election, we had the specter of 16 candidates and ended up with a Republican nominee who had never been a Republican in his life, never held office, never served his country in any capacity, went bankrupt 6 times, has never divulged his tax returns and still is not a registered Republican.  And that is just the tip of the Trump iceberg.

Today’s primary system is a you all come proposition where people with no qualifications or character can run for President and even become nominated.  Would Franklin Roosevelt been nominated by primaries?  Would Abe Lincoln, Jefferson, Washington or Teddy Roosevelt?  Harry Truman? Dwight Eisenhower?  Would John Kennedy?  Ronald Reagan did make it through the primary system but that is the exception.

The solution?  Go back to real party conventions that actually nominate the standard bearer of the Party. It is the job of the parties to pick their presidential candidates and the people then choose between the 2 chosen ones.  It is not the people’s job to sift through 30 candidates that they know nothing about.  

The Party knows who has worked hard for the Party, they know who worked their way up the ladder. They know his or her character and they know who has the depth to be a successful candidate.  In other words, if you are nominated by either party you are a proven winner, have been thoroughly vetted and have “paid your dues” working for the party and for America

President is no job for an amateur!

The next fix is to introduce partially or wholly Federally funded Senate, House and Presidential campaigns.   This takes the “big money” influence out of our electoral process.  This would be the best money we could spend to save our democratic process.  In my plan, the people could contribute tax deductible contributions to the Federal Campaign Fund to help keep the tax burden down.

A further requirement would be to tell the truth in all campaign advertisements and speeches.  Ads would be independently fact checked before airing.  Presently we are electing the most skillful liar, since so much of what we see and hear is is patently untrue.   Our freedom and liberty are too vital to entrust America to a Liar-in-Chief.

I would limit Federal Election Campaigns to 20 Weeks (5 months)  The campaigns would start 5 days after the end of the last Nominating Convention.

I would also abolish early voting.  Voting is a sacred privilege and duty in a democracy and we should all go to the polls in person and participate in the most important ceremony of an American Citizen.  This will also ensure that no tampering occurs with weeks of early ballots.

I would issue each U S citizen a Federal Voter photo ID Card which would also serve as a Social Security Card.   All Americans would have a tamper proof Federal ID for use in voting, airport security, check cashing, etc.

These ideas would simplify elections, ensure that good candidates are produced for our selection and take the big money and fraud out of our election process.

We might even get candidates with honor and character instead of the “best of the worst” that we too often get in our Federal Elections today.

Just my thinking, but I believe it would work wonders with our electoral process.

In Love and Light,

Rev. Dore’ Jacques Patlian, Sarasota, Florida

Fulfilling the Aquarian Promise

” This is the Dawning of the Age of Aquarius”.  Are you old enough to remember that song from the 70’s?  We are entering a new age of human history as we transition from the First Millennium of the Christian Era into the Second.  In Astrological terms we are in transition from the Taurian Age to the Aquarian Age.

Astrology aside, this is the Age of Humankind in which we finally grow up as a species.  Let’s not blow it!

The Aquarian Promise is that humanity will move from the Taurian emphasis on the physical realm to the Aquarian flowering of the spiritual.  Instead of seeking to subdue and conquer the planet and each other as we did in the last Age, we will finally understand that all that exists, all that is real, is of the Mind, Heart and Spirit. The inner will triumph over the outer.  Jacob will triumph over Esau. But can this really happen? Or is it an old Hippie fantasy?

The choice is up to each one of us.  Our collective consciousness is the thought atmosphere that will act on the Law and produce whatever we agree that we desire. We will all decide whether the Aquarian Promise is fulfilled or fails by what we think, speak and do in the next 50 years.

Will we understand that only in Oneness can this promise come to be?  Will we understand that identity politics fragments our consciousness and our society?Will we realize that the only identity that matters is that of a Divine Human?

 Will we finally realize that individual freedom based on self-responsibility is the high road to paradise on Earth?  Can we learn to disagree without anger hate  and rancor? 

Will we learn that true diversity is organic? Real diversity happens naturally; it is absent only when we put up artificial barriers to prevent it.  We cannot engineer diversity.  It happens naturally; if we would simply get out of the way and let it be.

The early days of Religious Science were an example of organic diversity in action.  In an era of exclusion, there was a rainbow of humanity in many Religious Science Churches, particularly in my home town of Los Angeles, and many other cities around the country.  Why has this changed? We chose to splinter instead of unite. 

What must we do right here and right now to begin our journey to the fulfillment of the Aquarian Promise.  We must create a new social contract here in the United States and around the world.  That contract would embody 6 basic truths. 

1. We are all magnificent creations of the same Creator, Ground of Being, Great Architect, God, Allah.  All are names we give the Divine Intelligence that creates everything that exists.  There are no lesser humans. The Creator does not create junk, all is perfect as it was designed to be. 

2. Since we are all created by the same Spirit, the same Divine Intelligence, we are literally brothers and sisters regardless of color, culture, gender or religion. What is done to one is done to all. What is done for one is done for all.

3. Fear is the root of all evil, not money or greed or hatred.  It’s fear.  All wars have at their root fear of loss: fear of the loss of the homeland, fear of subjugation, fear of diminution.  Hatred comes from fear as does anger.  Racism is fear personified.  To make ourselves feel better we denigrate another human. 

4. Sounds like 1968 but its true.  The only antidote is LOVE.  Love of self comes first.  If you cannot love you, you will have no love for anything or anyone else.  You are a magnificent creation of the Lord of the Universe; who are you to disdain such a fabulous creation as you?

5. God is the fact of all creation.  Call it Spirit, Ground of Being, Divine Intelligence, Great Architect: its all the same power and presence.  God is all there is.  Nothing exists outside the mind of God.  Every human being swims in God as a fish swims in the ocean; therefore when we look at our Brother or Sister human we are looking into the very face of God!

6. Religion is a human effort to explain, codify and understand the Infinite.  There is no one “right religion”.  Religion is a bit like ice cream.  Lots of people like it, many partake of it but each  has their favorite flavor.   Our religion, or lack of it, mirrors our temperament and personality.  I call religion ice cream for the soul.  Stop the arguing over religion!  Rocky Road or Salted Caramel? Its all good!

Religion is today, and always has been, the root of the worst wars, the most heinous crimes against humanity.  However, it opens the heart, heals the spirit, raises us to new heights of consciousness; comforts and consoles.  Most importantly religion provides a moral floor under our cultures.  

The Aquarian Promise can only be fulfilled if we agree to be advocates for good and pledge to be against nothing.  I am aware that it feels noble and exciting to be an activist and be righteously indignant about some slight or injustice.  Protests and demonstrations are by their nature negative and that is the wrong consciousness to get the job done.  What you resist will persist.  

If you really want to midwife change, do it by healing, bringing together, loving not hating which only separates your brothers and sisters.  As Mother Theresa so pungently said: I will not lead an anti-war march but I will march FOR Peace.  

More about “the promise” next post.  

Love one another, be for not against, commune with the Most High God and the Indwelling God, both are you in form.  Until we are together again…….

Rev. Dore’ Jacques Patlian, Sarasota, Florida

 

The Millennial Effect

There is unease, anger, fear and uncertainty; seemingly all around the world.  Religious fanaticism rears its ugly head, most notably in Islam, but all too often in Fundamentalist Christianity, Ultra Orthodox Judaism, and even Hindu Nationalism.  What is happening and why? Perhaps its the Millennium Effect!

With the end of a millennium comes the end of an Age. Often these Ages are given astrological names from the signs of the zodiac.  We are entering the Age of Aquarius; according to my astrologically gifted friends.   Whether you believe that the conjunction of the planets and stars affects the affairs of humans and the course of history is a matter of personal belief.  What we do know is that  periods of unrest and uncertainty accompany the turn of the millennium.

I believe its all about energy since all that exists here or in the cosmos is energy.  Matter is simply low vibration energy; this is physics, not astrology.  Can the magnetic fields of the Cosmos be altered by the movements of the planets, star systems and galaxies?  Perhaps.

What do you believe?  I do know that as a Virgo Birth Sign I am handsome (so my wife tells me) intelligent, have some leadership qualities but am prone to judgement of others and can be quite picky and petty, if I don’t guard against it.

So perhaps the astrological matrix into which we are born does influence our personalities but I will also tell you that no one is a slave to his “chart”.  It is only a possible path, perhaps a warning sign; but we determine our lives, we write the script and can edit it at will. Our “sign” only describes tendencies, not our future.

We are in the beginning of the Millennial Effect of the dawning of the Age of Aquarius, a time in which the Spiritual is supposed to flower and bring a new way of life to human kind.  There is always darkness before the dawn and we are experiencing it right now.

This is a phenomenon humanity has not experienced for 1,000 years.  The last millennial change in the year 1,000 was widely thought to be the “end of the world”.  Millions of Christians went to bed on December 31, 999 expecting to find themselves in Heaven or Hell as January 1,1000 dawned.  Quite a surprise when they awoke in the same old serf’s hut or Lord’s Castle!

This dawning of a New Age threatens the old ways of thinking, believing and behaving.  Religion hardens and becomes rigid and unforgiving as it strives to hold back the Light.  Nations experience entropy and may fly apart into tribal societies.  We see this in the UK, the EU, Syria (perhaps the oldest nation on the planet) and we see dangerous tribal rumblings, even in the US as racial tensions soar and police community relations enter a dire phase.

White America perceives the loss of their nation and the world they have known.  Black America feels oppressed and endangered at every turn.  Many of all races and creeds feel that the “system” does not work for them and that it is rigged.

Facts are little help in combating the angst.  In many ways this is the best of times, but try to convince anyone of that right now!  The Millennial Effect is about feelings, not intellect or facts.  It is primal, soul deep and gut wrenching.

We have become a nation of constituencies rather that One out of Many.  Our politics are more and more tribal; we vote our color, our faith, our sexual orientation or our region and, yes even our social class.

Tribalism is always a ticket to stagnation and decay.  The poorest and most underdeveloped nations are tribal and always have been. We can prosper and thrive together as One or perish separately as fools.

Could it be that in our urgent search for diversity we have sacrificed the unity that will save us all?  The melting pot made Americans in two generations out of people from all over the globe.  The “fruit salad” idea of today has made us a nation of separate identities and agendas and thereby fragmented our national spirit and our politics.

We bemoan our “divided America”.  How could it be otherwise when identity politics rules our national spirit.  The only identity that matters to me is the one that says I Am a Divine Human and an American. The solution must be a new social and spiritual contract.

Next post we will explore what to do about this tribalism and entropy.

Rev. Dore’ Jacques Patlian, Sarasota, Florida 

 

 

The Eternal Thread

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There is an eternal thread of truth that is found in all the great religions in the world.  To find this common thread we must set aside dress codes, dogma and ceremony and get down to the basics; the nub of the matter of God, humanity and their relationship to each other.  Dress, ceremony and dogma are functions of human culture and perception and have little to do with God.

The first great idea of the Eternal Thread of Truth is that there is a power in this world and the Universe that is greater than us.  Our minds are not the only sentient minds in all creation.  We are not alone.  We did not create ourselves out of whole cloth.  

The entire stage set of life was created by a Great Architect, a Divine Engineer, a First Cause that created the physical and spiritual laws that enable life and the Universe to exist.  Said plainly, there is Deity, a God of some form or fashion.  Since God is all there is, every human on this Earth or any other is literally my brother or sister and should be treated as such.

The second great idea of the Eternal Thread is that these Laws and this power is ours to share and to use.  We are not our creators but we are the inheritors of the power of our creators.  We use this power for Good with a Divine License for we are made of the same substance as all that exists.  We are living expressions of Deity, allowing Spirit to experience form.

The third great idea of this Eternal Thread is that the Law (both physical and spiritual) always functions just as it was designed and that no human is exempt from it.  While we are subject to physical laws (physics) and spiritual laws, (morality and ethics) we did not create the Law and cannot change it.

What we can do is to use and operate The Law for the benefit of ourselves and all humanity or we can wreak havoc and bring destruction by misuse of the Law. The Law is impartial, it works for the saint and the sinner alike;  it exacts its due both for good or for ill, depending on the operation of the Law by us.

The fourth great idea of this Eternal Thread is that we are always at choice, we are not puppets; we have Will and the right to use it.  We are responsible for the fruits of the exercise of our Will and will reap just what we have sown.

The fifth and most important idea of this Eternal Thread is that we are never alone.  There is help 24/7.   The Indwelling God is never is off duty or closed.  It will never impose itsself upon us but waits for us to ask, to seek, to knock on its door for help, for love, inspiration, courage and strength.   Those who seek to know God and will open a dialogue with the the Great I AM will have made the best and most enduring friendship imaginable.

It is this Eternal Thread of Truth that Religious Science (The Science of Mind) keeps alive in the hearts and minds of humanity.  Regardless of your religion or culture these truths are still the bedrock of human existence.  The Jew and the Muslim can use them.  The Catholic and the Protestant can celebrate them.  The Hindu and the Buddhist can glory in the Eternal Truth of God and yet celebrate Deity their own unique way.

There is really only one Truth.  God is all there is and that includes you and I.

Be peaceful, open your heart to lessons that your soul needs and have the ears to hear and eyes to see the lessons given you.

Rev. Dore’ Jacques Patlian, Sarasota, Florida    YouTube.com/’revdore 

 

God’s Job Description According to Rev. Dore’

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If I were to take an on-line poll of Americans I would wager that most think of God as a parent.  Newsflash!  God is not your parent, your parents are your parent.  Mine were Hildegarde and Ted and they were certainly not God; good parents but little Divinity in evidence.

Why do we persist in the 21st Century with the belief in the “parent God” who rewards when you have been good and punishes when you are bad?  Why do we believe that God cares or has control over what house you buy, what car you drive or whom you marry?  Why do we insist that God has a “plan for our lives” if only we could decipher it?

Because we think like children and relate to the Great Architect or Heavenly Father the only way children can conceive of the ultimate power in their lives….a parent.  Its time to lose the Theistic God and say hello to the Deist God.

Theism is all about a Heavenly Parent that meddles like a bad mother-in-law and wants to run your life forever.  Deism is the concept of God that most of America’s Founders had.  It was the God of the Enlightenment; A creator God who was the chief engineer and Supreme Architect who designed the building blocks of all life (DNA) created matter and energy and the matrix to run it all and then let Natural and Spiritual Laws run the whole system.

I believe that God is the Creator, the Ground of Being, the Supreme Architect, the First Cause of all there is.  I do not believe that God is my parent.  I do believe that God is as personal as we believe that He/She is.  If we start a dialogue with the Infinite Mind that we nickname God, we will have begun the most powerful friendship in the Universe.  God is open 24/7,never closed, always ready to inspire, to warn of danger, to comfort, to love its Creation beyond human understanding.  What God is not open for is to run your life.  That is your job!

God is love personified, what greater love can any sentient being express than giving of its very substance to create another sentient being?  We really do live and move and have our being within the great body of God.  We are One with the Infinite but walk through life alone and afraid, not realizing that the greatest power in the Universe is within our heart, mind and soul.  It’s a bit like the old saying that we are knee deep in a river and dying of thirst.   The water of God’s love is all around you, you swim in it as a fish swims in the ocean. Drink, be healed, be whole!

When you move beyond the childish Parent God to the Creator you become free.  You now realize that God’s job description is to create the materials needed, draw up the master plan of Creation and deliver the plans and materials to the job site, which is you and I.  What we make of the materials and the final plans is in our job description and the tools of the building of this thing called life is our thoughts, our words and our choices day by day.  With these three modes of creation (Thought, Word and Deed) we author the Book of Our Life. God has already given you all you need to make a Heaven or a Hell of your life and now its up to you.

No reward, we create the rewards.  No punishment, we are experts at it; we need no help in punishing ourselves.  We speak the blessing and the cursing each day of our life with what we do, what we say and most importantly, what we think and believe.

Time for us all to leave the God of Childhood, the Theistic God and to understand that God has always been patiently waiting for us to grow up and become a partner in creation rather than a begging supplicant.   We were never “weak worms of the dust”, we have always been magnificent expressions of the Infinite Mind, the Divine Intelligence, the Great Architect that we know as God.  Time to wake up to our true nature and our true purpose.

I celebrate each one of you for you are made of the very stuff of God.  Rejoice and then get to work building the life you were born to live.  Only you can do it!

Rev. Dore’ Jacques Patlian, Sarasota Florida    (want to know more, pick up my great new book “A Faith and Philosophy for the 21st Century” on Amazon.com)

 

You Are Magnificent!

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Did you know that you are magnificent?  Has anyone ever told you that?  If not, they should have done so when you were a child.  Even those judged least successful by their fellow humans are miraculous creations of the Great I AM that we nickname God. 

God is perfect substance, perfect love, perfect Mind and from perfection can come only perfection.  Everything created by God is therefore perfect. 

Well, Dore’ how in the world can you say that?  What about those born with serious birth defects or Down’s Syndrome or other debilitating conditions?

Perfect you say?  What, are you nuts Rev.? 

I was told that I was nuts just yesterday but I did not believe a word of it.  People judge us according to their world view but since I know who and what I am and am quite comfortable in my own skin, I pay little attention to the madding crowd.

As Terry Cole Whittaker used to say:  “What you think of me is none of my business”. 

You see, I know that I am a perfect creation of a perfect God; even though I was born with cerebral palsy, crooked eyes and other assorted challenges, including a big mouth.  Spiritual Mind Treatment cured the incurable and took care of all but a faint residue of the Cerebral Palsy and the hands of God working through the ophthalmic surgeons hands straitened the eyes. 

I am still working on the big mouth!  My dear wife Susan believes its a hopeless cause!

If I can believe that I am a perfect expression of the Creator of all that exists….surely you can join me in that belief. 

Perfection means very different things to the Creator than it does to his/her creations.  We tend to think of perfect as being without any flaw or blemish.  Most of us would say that nothing is perfect on this Earth and therefore nobody is perfect.  We hear that every day, don’t we?

Yes, and we would be so very wrong.  You see we think our lives into being and as a collective consciousness we create the conditions on this planet that we call our “world”.  Since we have such a bedrock belief in imperfection we get to experience it at every turn. 

Nothing is ordained or written or fated.  We think, speak and choose the conditions of our lives and collectively of this planet.

Self loathing is the seed of our belief in imperfection and it is the number one cause of all discord, disease, war and even poverty.  From self loathing comes its cousin guilt which poisons our hearts, souls and bodies. 

But wait!  All is not lost, I have the cure at my finger tips!  All this will end if we stop believing that we are damaged goods, bad seeds, rejects, God’s mistakes or whatever you say to yourself to poison your soul.

The word perfection does not mean “without flaw or blemish”. 

Perfect means made exactly as it was designed to be made.  We are all designed by the Great Architect (my nickname for God) just as he/she intended because each of us was designed and created for a unique purpose and experience on this Earth that only we can fulfill.  No two people on this planet has exactly the same life because no two of us are exactly alike.

We are unique living expressions of God.

We were made this way by perfect Substance and Perfect Love and that makes us perfect.  Now, what we make of this perfection is totally up to us.  God draws up the plans, gathers the building materials and drops it all off at the job site.  What we build on that site is solely our responsibility and becomes our destiny.

Here is an exercise in logic:

If God is Perfect, God made you, you are perfect.  You cannot escape the logic of that syllogism.  So put away the tiny little violin, call off the “pity party” and claim your magnificence.  It is your birthright as a living expression of God.

The day you can love you as God loves you is the day that you will transform your life. 

May the indwelling God and the Most High God, which are one and the same, dwell in your every thought, word and deed.

Rev. Dore’ Jacques Patlian, Sarasota, FL   Please enjoy my 121 video podcasts on YouTube.com/revdore

The Wise Counselor

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There is an art and science to being a good parent to our grown children.  Where once our word was law, now its just a suggestion.  It comes as a shock for a parent to realize that these are young men and women and it is their time to lead their own lives

There is an old saying that the parent is the bow and the child is the arrow.  If we have been good bows we will have instilled good values and hopefully good judgement in our children.  

It is rather hard to tell my 35 year old, very gorgeous pharmaceutical rep daughter with the six figure salary, company car and perks to die for how to live her life.   She and her four lovely girls are doing just fine.  The best Dad can do is to love her and, if she wishes, offer wise counsel.  

My middle child, lovely, rather exotic Kristen works in the Entertainment Industry (it is LA after all) for a company that handles distribution, contracts and royalties for companies like Red Box and Netflix.  She has a wicked wit and a great sense of humor. 

Her little boy Sean is so handsome he might become a “Hollywood Heartthrob” someday!  With Kris you listen and then show her that you care.  She needs a good mirror and I provide it. 

For a man, sons are a bit different because Dads tend to see themselves in their male children.  Evan, my youngest is in IT sales and is a bit of a geek but way taller than me and movie star handsome.  He is sometimes a bit intense like Dad and can be a goof at times but that is what makes him so lovable.  He is married to a lovely RN named Naomi and has a little boy I call Eli with curly hair and bright blue eyes…sooo handsome. 

My role in this still growing family of 13 is to be a good mirror and wise counsel when they need and want it.  I quietly ask them if they are willing to live with the results of what they are saying, doing or choosing.  I show them the end of the path that they are on without judgement.  That is the role of the wise counselor. 

Here are 4 Rev. Dore’ rules for adult child parenting:

1. Do not try to live your life through your children.  You have your life and they have theirs.  You are no longer responsible for their success or failure.  Give them the space to be themselves, even if that means a mistake or pothole in their path. 

2. Expect that for all that they remind you of you and their Mother (or Father), that they are going to be very different from you.  You did not Xerox your children, you gave birth to them.  They are not copies of you.  

3. Stay out of judgement.  We get into judgement with our children because we feel that their mistakes cast us in a bad light and that its our fault.  They are responsible for their own lives and what they do has little or nothing to do with you and I as parents.  Be a wise counselor, show them where their chosen path will lead and what the consequences will be.  Be a good mirror for them because just like you and I, they don’t see themselves as they really are. 

4. Just love them!  What they really want from a parent is not advice but an ear, a hug and love when no one else will give it.  They want acceptance for who and what they are.  

In fact, that is a good way to treat everyone in your life!  Until we are together again, be well and be happy!

Rev. Dore’ Jacques Patlian   Check out my 120 video podcasts on YouTube.com/revdore    For more information about Religious Science or The Science of Mind log on to CSL.org and find the nearest Center for Spiritual Living near you.

What To Do When a Life Storm Comes

“Son, in each life a little rain must fall”.  I cannot count how many times my wonderful, very Southern mother said this to me. This happened when I came in crying from school after the other kids tormented me because of my goofy name or that I was a “spastic”.

She was telling me that this moment of anger and hurt was not the end of the world; that life has its little storms but I must keep my chin up and all will be well in the morning.  In other words “don’t sweat the small stuff….and it’s all small stuff”.

In our neighborhood of Sherman Oaks in the San Fernando Valley lived two cast members of the Mickey Mouse Club television show.  One was Annette, she was a wonderful friend to me and we spent lots of summer days in her swimming pool talking about growing up and life.  The other cast member was famous for his long mop top and perhaps because of this he was a bully of the first order as a kid.

Every time he saw me he made it his business to beat the stuffing out of me! He was one tough son of a gun. I would run home, shirt bloody, crying and shaking from anger and fear.  Mother’s solution was to tell me to stay away from him and I tried, but to no avail.

Dad had a different solution.  He told me that the bullying won’t stop until you stand up to him. Now Dad was only 5′ 3″ tall so he knew a LOT about bullies in his youth. He said that the secret bullies never want you to know is that they are cowards at heart and feared blood and pain.  Dad’s prescription was to let the Mouseketeer throw the first punch (never start a fight but always finish it) and then I should punch him in the nose as hard as I could because noses bleed profusely without causing much damage.

I got my courage up and did it!  Dad was right!  He ran home crying his eyes out and never bothered me again.  In fact, we eventually became fast friends. We were taught to take care of ourselves and settle our own disputes in those days because it was a lesson in life.  Of course kids weren’t “packing heat” in the 1950’s!

What do we do when our personal sky darkens and the rain comes?  Here is my 3 step cure for a Life Storm:

1. Know that this too shall pass!  When the stuff starts flying we feel like our lives are over; that this is the beginning of the end.  It seems like the pothole in our path is a thousand feet deep and that we are helpless.   Remember, the only constant in the Universe is change!   This too will pass because nothing is forever. You will get through this unless you succumb to panic and lose hope….then you are done!

2. Stay out of fear!  If there were a Satan or Devil it would be FEAR.  No I don’t believe in fallen angels cast out of Heaven or Lucifer or Beelzabub.  There is ONE power and presence is this Universe and that is the Divine Mind, First Cause, The Great Architect that we nickname God.  All that exists begins in the mind of this spiritual Life Force and since we are expressions of that Life Force we create our lives in our minds in the exact same way. 

Fear is the great enemy for it causes mental and spiritual paralysis.  We experience the “deer in the headlight” syndrome.  We stand transfixed with dread and terror and can do nothing to save ourselves.  There is always a solution but only a calm mind and spirit can find it.

3. Take responsibility!  Everything that happens in your life is your responsibility, which is not the same as blame or fault.  Our society is obsessed with assigning blame in every situation, which I believe is a sign of our societal immaturity.  Blame fixes nothing; it is a form of revenge taking and solves little.  We blame others in order to deflect responsibility from the real cause…. US!

Every condition or event in our lives we created in the following three ways.  First we actively created the situation with our thoughts, words and choices.  We did it and we know we did it.  Often we are rebelling from someone of something when this happens.  I call this the “I don’t give a damn!” attitude. 

Second, we promoted the stuff in our life by our attitudes, words or actions that we knew darn well would lead to exactly what we are now experiencing.  For instance, you work for a company that values punctuality in its employees.  But you are late 6 times in 2 months and then feel victimized when you are fired or laid off.  Who created this?  Yes, you did. 

Third, we allow stuff to happen to us by having weak personal boundaries. This is co-dependent behavior which is a classic symptom of weak self esteem.  Have you ever known someone who lurched from crisis to crisis all because they could not say no to anyone who needed help, money or just wanted to sponge off of them?  This is a very common form of creating just the life we don’t want.  Living as an enabler is like living life in a hospital emergency room. 

No is one of the most important words in the English language.  Healthy people can say no without guilt if it is something they do not want to do.  You are responsible for you, no one else.  Help where you can but recognize a lost cause when you see one. 

Once you take responsibility for your life you have grown up spiritually and mentally.  You are now free.  You know that you paint the picture of your life stroke by stroke with your thought, word and deed.  If you painted the picture you can change it. You are the artist.  You are free at last. What you create you can change.  

This is how you navigate the inevitable storms of Life.  This too shall pass, stay out of fear and take responsibility!  

Until we are together again, walk in the Light and Love of God in your coming and going, waking and sleeping. 

Rev. Dore’ Jacques Patlian  YouTube.com/revdore  (check out my 112 video podcasts!   Want to know more about Religious Science (Science of Mind)?  Go to CSL.org and find the nearest Center for Spiritual Living near you.