A Sure Fire Fix for the Potholes in the Path of Your Life!

Is your life perfect?  Just exactly the way you have always dreamed that it would be?   Not so much?  Well, almost all of us have areas of our life that could use some improvement.  Perhaps its prosperity or maybe health.  Stress, worry and inner turmoil may be the problem which brings physical problems with it.

Perhaps you feel unloved and lonely and long for someone to love and understand you as a person.  You just want someone to “get you”.  What to do? How can we fix our lives quickly and painlessly in just a matter of days?

Ready?  Here is the sure fire fix for all that ails any human life.

Take responsibility for your life!  Yes, its that simple.  Here are the 3 steps to reclaiming, repairing and retooling your life.

1. Understand that blame and fault are not the same as responsibility.  You are not to blame for the shape your life is in but you are responsible!  Get over the blame game.

2. Be aware that not one person on Earth has been present every second of your life but YOU!  Therefore you are the driving wheel, the motive force of your life.  You thought the thoughts, spoke the cursing or the blessing each morning as you arose or before you went to sleep in the evening.  You either saw the good or complained endlessly of the bad.  What you think and speak is what you experience. What are we all but our thoughts, words and choices?

3. If you can honestly say that I wrote this novel, I produced and directed this movie that I call my life then you have just set yourself free.  Free at last, good God Almighty you are Free At Last.  You see, if you did it then you can change it because the ONLY person on this Earth that you can really control is YOU!

As Paul put it so well:  Think and speak only of things of good report. Thoughts are things and they are the building blocks of the Universe and of your life.  Nothing ever was made except by the thought and the Word.  God made the entire Universe by means of His thought and His Word.  As above, so below, which means that things here on Earth work by the same principles as they do in the Cosmos. You create your entire life by your thoughts and your words which create your choices and actions.

If you believe that your troubles and sorrow are the results of others then you are helpless because you can not really ever control any other being but you. With this belief that life happens to you, you live as a constant victim.  It is like spending your life in an Emergency Room lurching from crisis to crisis; powerless and depending on someone to fix you.

But if you created, promoted or allowed the mess and disarray to come into your life, then you can think a new thought and speak a new word of happiness, health, plenty and joy.  Watch your life change before your eyes!  You happen to life!  Your life is a mirror of you!

Your outer world is just a perfect mirror or reflection of what is in your mind, heart and soul.  The outer mirrors the inner you.  Change the inner and the outer must change correspondingly.  This idea is the root principle of Religious Science and the teaching of the Science of Mind.

You can heal your body with your mind and heart.  You can heal your finances with your mind and heart.  You can heal your marriage with your mind and heart.  You can heal your self esteem with your mind and heart.  You are the Doctor of your Life.   Ministers like me can teach you the techniques but you must do the work.

Nothing in your life changes until you do!  All true change is from the inside out.

This is basic stuff but it cannot be repeated often enough.  Throw off the chains of victim hood co-dependence and guilt and take charge of the most precious gift God has given you…….Your life!

Until we are together again, walk in the Light, Live in the Love and set yourself free by becoming the Master of your Life.

Rev. Dore’ Jacques Patlian, Sarasota, Florida    Look for my 120 video podcasts on YouTube.com/revdore

What To Do When a Life Storm Comes

“Son, in each life a little rain must fall”.  I cannot count how many times my wonderful, very Southern mother said this to me. This happened when I came in crying from school after the other kids tormented me because of my goofy name or that I was a “spastic”.

She was telling me that this moment of anger and hurt was not the end of the world; that life has its little storms but I must keep my chin up and all will be well in the morning.  In other words “don’t sweat the small stuff….and it’s all small stuff”.

In our neighborhood of Sherman Oaks in the San Fernando Valley lived two cast members of the Mickey Mouse Club television show.  One was Annette, she was a wonderful friend to me and we spent lots of summer days in her swimming pool talking about growing up and life.  The other cast member was famous for his long mop top and perhaps because of this he was a bully of the first order as a kid.

Every time he saw me he made it his business to beat the stuffing out of me! He was one tough son of a gun. I would run home, shirt bloody, crying and shaking from anger and fear.  Mother’s solution was to tell me to stay away from him and I tried, but to no avail.

Dad had a different solution.  He told me that the bullying won’t stop until you stand up to him. Now Dad was only 5′ 3″ tall so he knew a LOT about bullies in his youth. He said that the secret bullies never want you to know is that they are cowards at heart and feared blood and pain.  Dad’s prescription was to let the Mouseketeer throw the first punch (never start a fight but always finish it) and then I should punch him in the nose as hard as I could because noses bleed profusely without causing much damage.

I got my courage up and did it!  Dad was right!  He ran home crying his eyes out and never bothered me again.  In fact, we eventually became fast friends. We were taught to take care of ourselves and settle our own disputes in those days because it was a lesson in life.  Of course kids weren’t “packing heat” in the 1950’s!

What do we do when our personal sky darkens and the rain comes?  Here is my 3 step cure for a Life Storm:

1. Know that this too shall pass!  When the stuff starts flying we feel like our lives are over; that this is the beginning of the end.  It seems like the pothole in our path is a thousand feet deep and that we are helpless.   Remember, the only constant in the Universe is change!   This too will pass because nothing is forever. You will get through this unless you succumb to panic and lose hope….then you are done!

2. Stay out of fear!  If there were a Satan or Devil it would be FEAR.  No I don’t believe in fallen angels cast out of Heaven or Lucifer or Beelzabub.  There is ONE power and presence is this Universe and that is the Divine Mind, First Cause, The Great Architect that we nickname God.  All that exists begins in the mind of this spiritual Life Force and since we are expressions of that Life Force we create our lives in our minds in the exact same way. 

Fear is the great enemy for it causes mental and spiritual paralysis.  We experience the “deer in the headlight” syndrome.  We stand transfixed with dread and terror and can do nothing to save ourselves.  There is always a solution but only a calm mind and spirit can find it.

3. Take responsibility!  Everything that happens in your life is your responsibility, which is not the same as blame or fault.  Our society is obsessed with assigning blame in every situation, which I believe is a sign of our societal immaturity.  Blame fixes nothing; it is a form of revenge taking and solves little.  We blame others in order to deflect responsibility from the real cause…. US!

Every condition or event in our lives we created in the following three ways.  First we actively created the situation with our thoughts, words and choices.  We did it and we know we did it.  Often we are rebelling from someone of something when this happens.  I call this the “I don’t give a damn!” attitude. 

Second, we promoted the stuff in our life by our attitudes, words or actions that we knew darn well would lead to exactly what we are now experiencing.  For instance, you work for a company that values punctuality in its employees.  But you are late 6 times in 2 months and then feel victimized when you are fired or laid off.  Who created this?  Yes, you did. 

Third, we allow stuff to happen to us by having weak personal boundaries. This is co-dependent behavior which is a classic symptom of weak self esteem.  Have you ever known someone who lurched from crisis to crisis all because they could not say no to anyone who needed help, money or just wanted to sponge off of them?  This is a very common form of creating just the life we don’t want.  Living as an enabler is like living life in a hospital emergency room. 

No is one of the most important words in the English language.  Healthy people can say no without guilt if it is something they do not want to do.  You are responsible for you, no one else.  Help where you can but recognize a lost cause when you see one. 

Once you take responsibility for your life you have grown up spiritually and mentally.  You are now free.  You know that you paint the picture of your life stroke by stroke with your thought, word and deed.  If you painted the picture you can change it. You are the artist.  You are free at last. What you create you can change.  

This is how you navigate the inevitable storms of Life.  This too shall pass, stay out of fear and take responsibility!  

Until we are together again, walk in the Light and Love of God in your coming and going, waking and sleeping. 

Rev. Dore’ Jacques Patlian  YouTube.com/revdore  (check out my 112 video podcasts!   Want to know more about Religious Science (Science of Mind)?  Go to CSL.org and find the nearest Center for Spiritual Living near you.