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Don’t we all want to be happy? Well, I have known some people who seemed to embrace their misery like a lover but thank goodness they are in the minority! I believe that almost all of us on this planet want to be happy and feel good about the life we have led right up to the final day of our lives. I want to go out like Steve Jobs: yelling “Wow, Oh Wow”!
There are two roads of life; the Royal Road and the Pauper’s Path and we may choose either one. You see life does not happen to us; rather we happen to life! We lead a life, we are not led by Life. So we get to choose our lives with our thoughts, words (Words are so powerful!) and the choices that spring from them. In fact, our lives are really just a compendium of our choices and the actions that flow from them.
To travel the Royal Road we must first understand and believe that we are the motive force of our lives and that we can create any life that we can imagine, speak of with certainty and then choose to create.
However, if we believe that life happens to us, that we are victims of Fate, Circumstance or the whims of others- then to the Pauper’s Path we shall go! You see you cannot create anything but misery and failure if you believe that you are a pawn of Fate, Luck, God or other people. You are merely victim of outside forces, out of control and thus can create nothing positive.
You have decided to take command of your life and travel the Royal Road. Great! This is the path of life that God created you to travel and the road that He/She gave you the power and tools to navigate. But human beings are not automatons; we have free will so you can choose the Pauper’s Road of suffering, crises and pain, if you desire. Your power operates in forward or reverse, the choice is yours!
But you may ask, why would anyone possibly choose the Pauper’s Path? Is there some power greater than us that sets our feet on the path to desperation, poverty, illness, misery and degradation? Is it Lucifer, Satan, Beelzebub perhaps?
No, these are creatures that have never existed but fabricated to excuse a life badly lived. There is only ONE power and Presence in the Universe and that is God, the Good Omnipotent. So why do so many people trudge down the Pauper’s Path when they have been given the power to cruise down the Royal Road? One reason is that they have been taught that they are weak worms of the dust and thus are powerless. There is another reason and it’s that it is so easy to travel the Pauper’s Path, its almost the default setting for many!
In the words of the great Crosby, Stills and Nash song entitled “The Southern Cross”: we never failed to fail, it was the easiest thing to do! Yes, indeed, it was the easiest thing to do, just give up, let it be and take whatever comes! You can’t beat City Hall, you can’t box with God, the little guy never wins, the game is rigged, you can’t win anyway so why even try? Thoughts like these are the speedway on to the Pauper’s Path of Life. You are what you think you are, no more no less.
I spent way too much time in my life believing that I was “damaged goods” because I had been born with Cerebral Palsy. I focused on my disabilities and my lack of grace, co-ordination and my weird eyes that went in two different directions. I spent precious years on the Pauper’s Path when the truth about me was that I was a miracle child, a one in a million baby who recovered 90% from birth condition that is “incurable”. I was given a pearl of great price but all I could see was the “bad hand I was dealt”.
I needed a good lesson in gratitude and an appreciation of the joy of a life that I had been given seemingly against all odds. It took me until almost the age of 50 to finally put my feet on the Royal Road by at last taking responsibility for the far too many marriages, the too many careers abandoned just when success was at hand and the deep anger that erupted like Old Faithful when least expected. In 1997 I finally gave up my crutches of “damaged goods”, anger and alcohol.
I quit smoking my pipe as well on that same day and I must say I do miss that occasionally but my dear wife Susan was worth any sacrifice and my pipe and tobacco was a small one. Even though I am not wealthy yet, I am not famous yet, and even if neither ever comes to pass (I believe both are very close) I am happier than I have ever been. I am now at the age of wisdom and perspective and still healthy and vigorous enough to enjoy it!
I am 70 now and what a glorious age! I am healthy, have a wonderful head of silver hair and straight eyes (another miracle of many in my life) a cozy, pretty home on a pond and a lovely woman that is my dearest love. I am now speeding down the Royal Road because I have finally discovered just how blessed I have always been. I now know that gratitude is the on ramp to the Royal Road of the Happy Life. May you cruise the Royal Road!
Gratitude is the Engine Oil, the lubricant of the Universe……Rev. Dore’ Jacques Patlian